Kinky can be fun, safe and it's definitely consensual!

I recently had this conversation with few of my friends (With the on going Fifty shades' (trilogy) hangover) who could not relate to the fun associated with BDSM and they couldn't stop throwing dirty looks at me when they found out that i myself (seldom!) do engage in BDSM with my partner! I understand them, either they are terrified or bestowed within their limited knowledge about the entire thing. They can't stand being abused by their dominant partners. But they don't know the fact that it can be fun,highly arousing & it's tremendously powerful! It's a great vehicle for exploring a number of different kinds of fantasies in a way that's exhilarating.To get tied up,restrained hand and foot, blindfolded by ur partner,while being played with ice cubes,molten wax, scoops of ice cream or such specific things all over ur body, being cuffed,spanked,whipped or flogged by ur partner within the preset limits of restraint/stimulation bondage, are the few ways to ignite the passion play!

BDSM isn't exactly what u see in porn! There's no harm in experimenting with sex, provided its safe, sane and consensual. And yes, BDSM isn't all about the power play of a dominant partner. Trust me, being a submissive one in bed myself, i know where to set the limit! Its a mutual decision within two consenting lovers, to which places can or can not be explored; at times, i can call a halt to the scene,whereas my dominant partner, in many ways,is simply just a facilitator. It's the dominant's job to create a setting where the things involved can explore the submissive's fantasies. BDSM need not be always exaggerated like wearing a hood and being chaned to the wall!